New Year, new goals
Happy New Year, first post of 2018 woop! Pleas excuse my tardiness because I wrote this on 2nd Jan and it's taken me this long to post, oops.
Looking back on 2017, I noticed how many measurable, achievable goals I set and I really do think that’s often the way to go in setting resolutions rather than vaguely saying things like "I want to get fit". However, as with anything, goal setting is not one-size fits all and that approach isn’t going to work for me this year. I thought about some fitness goals I would love to achieve, such as a new half marathon PB and dead-lifting more than my own (pre-pregnancy!) weight. However, these are not realistic for me right now and might add undue pressure to a time when I really don’t need it – I am going to be on mat leave for the best part of this year and I haven’t been able to run during my pregnancy due to an injury, so why put pressure on myself to suddenly start training for a half? I’m sure the idea is laughable to all mum out there (where would I put the baby?!) as it’s frankly unrealistic on so many levels and not going to be a priority with a new-born, and even naïve little me can see that!
I’ve had a really long think about it and here’s my goals for the year:
1. Practice self-care. Buzz-word I know, but I’ve noticed a huge increase in my happiness when I practice. As an anxiety sufferer, I can get caught up in my own emotions, focusing on other peoples’ behaviour and letting it affect my own thoughts, actions and mood. Just the other day I was feeling a bit low after a busy Christmas and New Year (told you I wrote this a while ago!) and after a good chat with my sister, I spent the day doing life admin. Totally boring I know but cancelling the credit card I don’t use that I get charged for each month really made me feel better, as did collecting my overdue dry cleaning and sending back an ASOS return. I also went to Tesco and bought myself a new dressing gown and PJs, a bunch of tulips (only £2.50!) and dinner ingredients for a healthy meal to cook that night. Essentially I looked after number one; doing things that would make me happy and get jobs off my to do list.
I know this sounds so basic and we can’t have a day like that every day (I was off work that day fyi) but I think if I spent some time each week (whether a weekend day, a couple of evenings or a few lunchtimes) doing these self-preservation orientated tasks, I would feel more organised and feel pleasure and accomplishment on a regular basis. Small, achievable goals peeps!
2. Enjoy my maternity leave. Cue massive eye roll from all new mums reading this thinking "you have no idea what’s coming to you love" (probably in a less polite way!), I know! I do appreciate that mat leave is definitely not a holiday and will be far from easy and I’m not in any way suggesting I have any comprehension of how tired and out of my depth I may feel and what it will be like not having a salary for a length of time. However, the opportunity to not be at work for a while and be able to spend time with people I love (albeit with a baby in tow!) is something I would like to appreciate. I want to make sure that for every low point there are more highs and again, that self-preservation plays a part. I want to remind myself of this and if I am having one of those days where I am anxious, depressed, worried about the baby, whatever it may be, that I get us outside or speak to a friend. I don’t want to sit indoors mindlessly scrolling through Instagram feeling a mess in comparison to others’ airbrushed lives. I am already lining up boxsets I have been meaning to watch for the late night feeds (good tip from my sister), I've got myself a kindle and an army of podcasts and I hope to continue to blog about the adjustment.
So there you have it, not your usual mix I grant you and probably not what you might expect to read on a fitness blog. I found an interesting article on the Pool recently about thinking about the things you can bring to 2018 rather than focusing on what you need to quit/improve (i.e. negative aspects of your self). I hope that setting the simple goal of ultimately having a positive outlook on mat leave and getting something out of it is a simple way of looking at this new part of my life coming up.
What are your goals for 2018? Have you simplified or gone more measured?